Day 13 – “Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”

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So how does this step by step help me build confidence? It just seems like a framework for achieving my goals?
And that’s the exact point. 😉
Confidence stems from doing and achieving.

“Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”

So the fact that you’re doing something you value and hold highly in your life is what is building your confidence. Stringing together victory after victory each step knowing you’ll achieve it because you reached the last 5-6. Without noticing the momentum, you made towards your goal built up your confidence.
Now when you look at new struggles of goals, you have the confidence to say I made it through that, or I achieved this. So why would this new challenge be any different?
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Just like knowledge and skills can be built through repetition, so can confidence. And by taking small actionable steps, you’re doing and did just that!

My personal fitness story of building one step at a time

To give a personal story of how this works, I can take you back four years ago at the start of my life-changing journey. I didn’t know it at the time but the small steps and decisions I made my freshman year of college ultimately shaped where I am today.
Luckily I was naturally a bit more confident than others growing up due to my brother, father, and the values instilled in me when I was young. But 18 and 60 lbs overweight with a girlfriend that cheated on me and broke up with me, my confidence was shattered.

Adding each little step

I made the conscious decision to lose some weight to regain where my standards were. So every day I did more and ate a bit less. I didn’t make dramatic changes as I was already hitting the gym. But I slowly swapped unhealthy meals with healthy ones. Starting with salads for lunch, slowly eating smaller more protein-packed breakfasts throughout six months.
In the gym, I started pushing myself harder and longer. Slowly increasing my workload and benching 145lbs one week and each week adding 2-5lbs hitting a new PR every day in every lift. Letting the snowball and compound effect work naturally.

Confidence bleeding over into the rest of my life

Before you know it those good habits lead to great habits in other parts of my life. Slowly drinking less, doing drugs less, studying more, and feeling better about myself. Through time as these achievements compounded my mansion of confidence was being built.
I started looking at every challenge just as that a challenge, not an indestructible wall. Knowing that if I was able to lose 60 lbs, double my strength, and turn my F’s into A’s that with the right amount of confidence and determination I can then achieve anything I put my mind to.
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Being able to look back on the journey

It’s been a long journey of 4-5 years now. And yes I still struggle but not with the same problems as those are long behind me and accomplished. They don’t even cross my mind, because I’m working on bigger and better things.
And that’s where we are getting you to, to understand that it’s a long journey and not a sudden bang of change. But far enough along into it, you’ll be able to look back and smile and laugh about your old challenges. And be able to look forward on a better life with the confidence that you can tackle anything that life throws at you.
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Day 11 – “Momentum is real. Build it in every step.”

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If you haven’t read the last two articles, it’s highly encouraged as this is part of a series of building your confidence.

“Momentum is real. Build it in every step.”

Like we discussed the first step is the hardest. Now that you’ve started you have to decide to halt your progress. And that’s what most do.

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Taking the next step

After the first step, they believe they completed their ultimate goal which is far from the truth. You have to set your second, third, and fourth step immediately after completing phase one.

Step one is far from your goal, but it shouldn’t be now from your second goal, and that’s where people get lost. They get the hit of dopamine, that feeling of satisfaction after goal one and decide it’s enough. Then go back to there old ways to try again later, a vicious cycle.

Avoiding your old ways

That’s not going to be you!

Because you’ll set, you’re second, third, fourth, and fifth step towards your goal immediately. Using the same framework as before and taking a small measurable value up from step 1 and setting that goal.

So awesome, you made $5 more this month or lost 2 pounds in a week. You’re a killer! But predators never stay satisfied. So lets up the stakes. Now make $20 more dollars then $50 more than $75 more. Now lose 4 pounds, 5 pounds, 7 pounds.

$0 to $100 is a big jump. But $5 to $20 is a simple step. Make them simple, doable, and building on your day off progress. Take each step and celebrate each step and continuously add another step afterward. That’s your award.

 

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Day 4 – “Just keep swimming.”

"Just keep swimming." - evan laird

This morning felt like the most challenging day thus far. I didn’t want to move upon waking, didn’t want to struggle my way out of bed. I just wanted to lie there for the next three months asleep when this is all over, and I can go back to using my hand.

Pain in the process

It hasn’t become the pain or the healing process that’s the hardest. It’s become the mental fatigue to keep on what I’m doing to heal correctly. I was instructed to keep my fingers straight and not let them rest of dangle 24/7. By the time I woke up this morning my fingers were shaking of exhaustion. I’ve also been instructed to keep my hand above my heart 24/7 for the next 2-3 weeks to reduce swelling. My arm and shoulder being in constant strain to keep it up.

And with that, yesterday’s quote is unraveling before my eyes. The pain isn’t in the actual accident or cut of my hand. But it resides in the recovery and the steps I’m taking to make progress, grow, and come back stronger than ever. So today’s quote comes from a childhood favorite movie that dives deeper than you realize.

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“Just keep swimming.”

The hero is consistent

Naturally not actually, because with my hand I can’t swim right now. But emotionally, mentally, and physically keep moving and progressing. Through you trails, theirs going to be moments where you feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, and riding the more natural wave back to shore. When those come up, don’t make any dramatic decisions. Don’t try to be the hero to bring up some insane motivation to bring you to the next level. It’ll only fade and bring you crashing right back down.

Take the simple steps

All you need to do is just keep swimming. Take the simple necessary steps towards progress to get yourself moving, and that’s it. Because each little paddle towards your ultimate goal will end up snowballing into even greater. Take the simple steps, one step at a time.

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