It’s officially been a week since the accident. And five days since surgery. As I reflect on the week, I’d be lying to myself if I said this wasn’t the toughest week of my life
Stress, anxiety, sadness, and the feeling of utter defeat have never consumed me for that long of a sustained period. But as I reflect I can also look up and say the hardest part is behind me. With anything in life, the first week is always the hardest. It forces you to change your habits, adds in extra stress where there wasn’t before, and can become frustrating. But like changes of diet, exercise routine, career, etc. the ones who win, push through that week to make their lives exponentially better.
Why does this happen? Because they know their why and where they’re going. In essence, they have a goal and standard they want to live up to and push through the tough times to reach those. And through this process that’s what you and I have to have.
“Going through life without setting goals is like going on a road trip without a map.”
Yes, you may make it to the destination without the map, but it’s going to take you twice as long and be a bumpier road. Create your route and get moving on your goal.
Find What You Want Your Destination to Be
I feel lucky in the sense. Although like many of us, I have ambitions, dreams, and goals but they were scattered. I knew my destination but didn’t know how to get there. I was lost on the road.
But 3 hours before my accident, I sat down for a few hours and wrote my exact path for the next three years. How exactly I see my life from 22 to 25 playing out and the exact steps I’ll take along the way. This process was called a Vivid Vision.
Rightfully so, you vividly create what the future looks like and how you will get there. This is your fucking map. I was lucky to have the chance to write this before my accident, but it’s not too late for you to create yours.
Set up your vision right now, don’t wait
Put your struggle, disability behind you for 3 hours. Write as if you’re 100% healthy emotionally, mentally, and physically. Think about the areas of life that mean the most to you and write them down. For instance, I separated mine into:
For each category write your dream story of 1-5 paragraphs of exactly how you want your career to go in the next three years and then again for your family, relationships, etc. Get as detailed about the times, numbers, and specifics as possible. It will only help fuel you more.
It’s about YOU!
When I say dream story I mean it, write what YOU want. Not what you think your friends or family want to hear. This is YOUR map, YOUR life, and YOUR vivid vision, no one else’s.
After your brutally honest with yourself on how you want your next three years to play out, write it all down. Read it aloud, proud and loud and record you confident voice. Now listen to this 5 minute or so recording every damn day. Whether you feel like it or not, turn it on. Sear it into your mind and memory so every time you make a decision, you’ll think back to your vision and make the right choice for your future self.
A map does no good if you use it one day and throw it away from the next. It only becomes useful if you use it through every turn and crevasse in your journey. Sit down today, block out 3 hours, and create your map. Use it every day and get your adventure started. Your dream is waiting for you on the other side of hard work.